Everything is taken away from me

Q: Why does that happen that I am feeling like everything is taken away from me?

I’m sorry that is what you are experiencing right now. When things happen beyond a person’s ability to control or influence them, a feeling of frustration, hopelessness, and emotional flatness can result. Some may even feel as though they are somehow cursed, or that God is angry with them. Left unchecked, such feelings can lead to a whole slew of mental, emotional, and behavioral problems that tend to masquerade as coping mechanisms or solutions to the initial problem. The fact is, however, they generally make things worse for the individual and the people around them. It is important, therefore, to find a healthy way to deal with that feeling of powerlessness or lack of control.

First, the most important thing to recognize is that you have more power and control over the events of your life than you probably think. If everything really were to be taken from you, you would still hold immense power, particularly that of how you choose to think about and deal with what has happened to you. A friend of mine once told me he was happy to take on the debilitating illness he had contracted because if someone had to get it, he wanted it because he could be strong where another might not.

Next, it can help to have decided for yourself what it is that you actually NEED to be happy. You may find your list of actual needs is rather small. Once you know what you truly need, it becomes easier to see everything you have beyond that as a blessing or a gift If, thereafter, you find yourself without it, it’s not a tragedy, because you know it’s not necessary for your happiness, and you can instead be glad for the time you had it.

Finally, It is important to recognize that, no matter who you are or what you do in life, pain, loss, and suffering are going to be a part of it. It is one of the unavoidable, universal facts of life. Knowing that, the best thing is to get everything you can from it. Find the meaning in the suffering, and see the potential opportunities and lessons that are hidden in those painful experiences. It will shorten the duration and severity of the loss, and add a whole new level of depth, strength, and purpose to everything you do.

Be strong.